Spending time with family and friends can bring so much joy over the holiday season. But sometimes family gatherings don't always fit the perfect postcard ideal. Instead they may be filled with tension, unresolved issues or arguments. To help you manage your way through some stressful situations, we've listed some ways that may help.

  • Avoid discussing any heated topics, whether that be past fights or conflicting views. Keep to topics that you know are safe such as the weather, sports, entertainment and food.

  • If you feel like you really can't be there, then it's okay to say no to the invitation and go someplace where you know you'll enjoy the company. If you feel you have to go, then make a promise to yourself that you'll leave early so you won't feel overwhelmed.

  • Practice gratitude for your family and friends, some people spend the holidays alone so try and feel grateful that you're spending it with loved ones.

  • If someone makes an offensive or insensitive comment, try not to take it to heart. While easier said than done, the less you let it bother you, the better off you will feel. By not reacting to their comment, they won't be able to provoke you or make fun of your reaction.

  • To get through the day, you can always aim to make yourself busy. Help out with the dinner or take care of handing out the drinks, this way you'll have something to do and you can try to avoid the drama or awkward situations that may arise.

  • Get your family talking about themselves, this way the pressure will be off of you to answer any pesky questions that you don't want to answer. People usually love talking about themselves too, so the more they talk the less you have to.


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Information sourced from: Exploring your mind.

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