Sex is a funny ol' topic where it's a vital part of life (literally) yet for some it is a bit of an awkward subject to talk about. Well we're not going to shy away from sex at all in this article. Nope, we're going to get right up in this topic and tell you everything you need to know about sex, sexual health checks, and birth control.

So sex, what is it?

You know what sex is.

Okay fine, tell me about sexual health checks

If you're someone who is having quite a bit of sex then it's important to keep tabs on your sexual health by visiting a doctor every six months or so. It's doubly important to get a check up if you tick any of the following boxes:

  • You think you might have a sexually transmitted infection (STI).

  • You recently had unprotected sex of any kind, or if a condom broke of fell off partway (it happens).

  • You or your partner has more than one sexual partner.

  • You're starting a new sexual relationship

  • You've shared injecting equipment such as needles.

So to sum up, if you're regularly getting some then it's important to go get regular sexual health check ups with your doctor/GP or a sexual health clinic in order to keep yourself and your partner (or partners) safe from any potential STIs or health issues.

If you're on the lookout for a sexual health clinic, head over to the Family Planning Alliance Australia website.

Right, so what happens at these sexual health checks?

The doctor or nurse will ask a bunch of questions about your sex life, such as number of sexual partners, what kind of sexual stuff you're into, any health problems, and any potential symptoms of an STI. Next up is a physical examination and the doctor or nurse will ask you permission to do things that may include:

  • Providing a urine sample or swabs of bodily fluids for examination.

  • Do a blood test.

  • Examine your genital area, which includes vaginal examinations such as pap smears.

We get that it may be a bit weird to be speaking to a doctor about all the times you got laid and how your genitals feel, but reassured that they talk about this stuff all the the time and it is far from the weirdest thing they've seen. Remember that they're medical professionals which means what you tell them is confidential by law, plus a good doctor or nurse will never judge you on anything you tell them - they just want to help you and to make sure you're getting laid in a safe way.

That's nice of them. What about contraceptions?

Contraception is all about preventing pregnancy. We had so much to say about it that we couldn't fit it here and ended up dedicating an entire article about it right here.

An entire article on contraceptions?!

Yeah, well, contraceptions are important.

Fine, what about consent?

Consent is super important and is all about making sure you and your partner both mutually agree to have sex of any kind. This isn't just a simple "yes" or "no" situation, it's an ongoing line of communication where you and your partner are checking in on each other to make sure you're both comfortable with what you're doing. Some very very important things to remember about consent:

  • Consent must be explicit and you can always change your mind. You and your partner must give a clear and explicit "yes" before engaging in any sex so don't assume anything. Equally important is that you and/or your partner can always change your mind and stop whatever it is you're doing. Respect each other's feelings and decisions and make sure to check in with each other.

  • Drugs and drinking affect consent. Consent has to be given freely and a person's decision-making is impaired if they're intoxicated so doing anything sexual without them not knowing what is going on is a massive no no - and a crime - since they can't give informed consent.

So if you're about to indulge in some sexy fun times, please stay safe, use protection, make sure everyone has given the okay, and remember to get regular checks. Now off you go, you frisky animals.


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Information sourced from: Health Direct, The Womens, NSW Health, and Reach Out.

Image credit: Sex Education

All content is created and published for informational purposes only. It is not intended to be a substitute for professional advice. Always seek the guidance of a qualified health professional.

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